Ever have one of those friends....

Ever have one of those friends that blows you off & you're not sure why? Or the super competitive one? Or the one that wants to judge your parenting & just about anything else you do? I think we can all agree that friendships take work just like any relationship but you know the "types" I'm talking about ;) I've gotten to a point in my life where I have a great group of close friends & don't have the time or energy for any games, drama or added stress. So when I came upon this blog post, it made me laugh a little & I wanted to say You Go Girl! Because God knows I've been in this position before & know exactly what she means! Check out the blog post at Yeah. Good times.. Here's the letter from the post ;)

Dear Would Be Friend,

Lord knows, I’m not in a position to be turning down friends, but I’m not sure this is working out. I know that, as the Aspie, I’m supposed to be the one who’s clueless about the whole interpersonal relationship thing, but I’m gonna give you some clues about how to be my friend.

Don’t blow me off. My concerns and worries are just as valid as anyone else’s. If you want to be my friend, you should respect me enough not to laugh and make some flippant remark indicating that these aren’t things I should be “wasting time on”.
Stop the power plays. I’m not interested in being friends with someone who periodically feels it necessary to play some kind of passive/aggressive game to make sure she “stays on top”. It’s stupid, childish, and hurtful.

I’ll tell you what, being a friend of mine could be a great thing for you. I’m fiercely loyal, an excellent listener, and extremely generous with my friends. I also have a great sense of humor and am a lot of fun. But continue in your current course, and you’re not gonna get to find that out. And that’ll be your loss. I’m thankful for your assistance, and I respect your knowledge, but that’s as far as it’ll go if you don’t change the way you treat me. I might be insecure and immature, but I’m smart enough, and respect myself enough to not allow you or anyone else to be crappy to me, whether it’s intentional or not.

Sincerely,

Not That Desperate

Useful Tidbit #1

Maybe some of you may already know this little trick but I didn't & thought it was worth sharing!

So have you ever had one of those days or nights when you're getting ready to go somewhere & realize you've got a few more breakouts (zits!) than normal? Like the little ones that are hard to cover up because they just look red & irritated?

Well... I'd vaguely heard this mentioned on tv last week & it worked! I took some Visine *I had extra strength to "get the red out" ;)* and squeezed some drops on a q-tip & rubbed it on each blemish. I did this a couple times just to be sure. Within about 10-15 minutes I noticed a difference! Obviously the zit didn't go completely away, but I noticed a difference in redness & inflammation! Enough of a difference that I could then cover it up with concealer.

If you try it, let me know if it works for you! And feel free to share any tricks you may have that work :)

Quote of the day :)

"Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you."

— Christian D. Larson

Can I get a Woot Woot!?

Got our income tax return today! All together now... "Thank you Jesus!!" ;) Hope everyone has a happy Friday & a blessed weekend :)

Turn that frown upside down! ;)

Today started descent but went downhill fast & Mr. Stress showed up & didn't want to leave. I was so very stressed out & spent most of my day worrying. But then I reminded myself to put things in God's hands. I have zero control (which I often forget!) so what's the point in worrying? After that my day improved so much :) I was productive, got a lot of laundry done. Took a family walk & walked the dog while Noah rode his bike. Had a good dinner & did some cardio kickboxing. It really shows how much your attitude affects everything else. Super excited it's almost Friday!! Supposed to be a beautiful day tomorrow! I'm excited about a photo shoot I'm doing Saturday morning then taking Noah to see The Jungle Book play at the college. And Sunday... Rest! :) So the moral of the story is... (he he!) Turn that frown upside down! We have no control over anything anyway so you might as well enjoy yourself & everyone around you!! :)

Lesson of the Day! ;)

When it snowed Sunday we played in the snow & made a snowman with Noah. He decided to name him Rudolph :) Every day since then, he looks outside to see Rudolph. Well today the temp finally got above freezing & more snow melted. Noah looked out the window at Rudolph. His pine-cone hair had fallen off from the melted snow & there were no more Hersey Kisses eyes or Peanut M&M mouth. He burst into tears because his snowman was melting! I felt so bad for him & comforted him. I explained to him that it's just snow & we get it sometimes but it melts. And it goes away but it's still ok. He was still upset & went to his room crying. About 15 minutes later he comes back into the living room smiling & says "Mom! I'm happy now! That just means we have more grass!" :) So the Lesson of the Day is 'Be happy with what you have & don't worry about what you don't have!' :) Gotta love kids & their fresh perspective!

My Quote of the Day

"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song."
~ Maya Angelou

Almost Christmas!! :)

I'm already so excited about Christmas this year! It's the first year that we've been able to talk to Noah about the holidays & their true meaning. He has a little Christmas program at preschool that I'm very excited about too. It will probably only be a few songs but I can't wait :) This is also the first year that he understands that Santa will bring him presents if he is good. I'm loving the holiday scents in the house & looking at the Christmas tree. Ok enough rambling but I'm really looking forward to making holiday memories with my little family :)